New Year. More Me.

New Year. More Me.

There’s been a lot of the usual new year, new me energy floating around the last few weeks.. We’re nearly three weeks into January already. Don’t ask me how that happened 😦.

And honestly. I’m not here for it.

That’s not exactly a hot take anymore. Most of us have seen the shift from extreme detox culture to the more palatable “you can still be you, just with goals” messaging from wellness brands. And I don’t disagree with that. Goal setting is a big thing for me.

But here’s the thing. I don’t set goals once a year.

I set them all the time. And more importantly, I adjust them constantly.

As an ADHD small business owner, mum, wife, and a human in there somewhere too, I tend to err on the side of extreme optimism. I wildly overestimate my capacity because I have this intoxicating urge to do everything NOW. Immediately. Preferably yesterday.

So I re-evaluate often.
Monthly. Weekly. Daily. Hourly, sometimes.

That process helps me let go of the perfectionism I secretly aspire to more than anything else but, by definition, will never actually achieve.

I remember being on a work call a few years ago. One of those forced return to work ice-breakers 😒. We were asked what our New Year’s resolutions were. Most of us said we weren’t setting any because they never lasted beyond January.

Looking back, I don’t think the problem was the resolutions.

It was the expectation (or assumption 😉) that they had to be life-altering.

For years, one of mine was lose weight. Even writing that now makes me turn inside out. I think of all the better things I could have focused on instead. But that’s another story.

This year, I’m doing things differently.

I’m setting one family goal, one personal goal, and one work goal.

Nothing flashy. Nothing transformative. Just intentional.

Family:
Getting off my phone during car journeys. Passenger princess privileges aside.

Personal:
Giving my opinion in social situations, even if it disagrees with others.

Work:
Saying no to work that doesn’t align.

That’s it.

I’ll be reviewing these goals regularly. Not to punish myself if I slip, but to check in. To see how they’re going, how they feel, and whether anything needs to change.

No reinvention.
No pressure to become someone else.
Just learning to work with myself instead of against myself.

Let’s see where they go throughout the year.

Speak soon,
Laura x